lisa guest
w hile earning a BA from Berkeley, my real passion was political psychology. An early but tired overachiever, twice voted by my peers “Most Likely to Succeed,” by my thirties, after exploring many careers and countries, the only thing I really wanted to succeed at was achieving the Big O. In the 90s, it was obvious to me, that most women were not finding much success in their sex lives. I wanted that to change, first for myself, and hopefully for others.

I’m not a doctor or a research scientist, but I personally examined the orgasm and learned how to use it to heal my body. When I first surrendered to one at twenty-six I stopped grinding my teeth and having horrendous hives. Orgasms are healing, but sex itself can be destructive.

By my thirties, after exploring many careers and countries, the only thing I really wanted to succeed at was achieving the Big O.

I've written since I was twelve about boys and then men, but preferred to remain hidden until I recently manifested a disease that runs in the family. In order to heal at a deeper level, I wrote COURTING ME(N) to share what I learned about love, sex, and myself. This memoir follows my quest to discover Lisa Guest, not use her to bring up the next generation with the same patterns I’d inherited. This book explores those patterns, how they prevented my pleasure, and how I jettisoned the illusion of what I should be to clearly state and claim who I am.

MY BOOK IS A PERSONAL REVELATION, A JOURNEY OF SEEKING. It's about the adventure of accomplishing, the challenge of interruptions and distractions, and the giving back in gratitude of the gifts I’ve received along the way. I’ve come home to myself and found the balance between solitude within and solace in the arms of another. I’ve reconciled the relationships I’ve clung to and rejected. I’ve understood why I searched high and low (and what for), how I got lost on the way, how I fought to maintain the dream when each choice provided less than what my vision portrayed, and how I resurrected the past to step squarely into the future by being committed wholly to the moment. I've learned, when I court me first, I'm filled with joy and have more gifts to give.

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